In support of a felon

Hi Eric,

I just happened on your blog today. I am in a committed relationship with a guy and things are progressing in the serious direction. However, he has recently told me he is a felon. He served 2 years in prison for robbery. All this occurred approx. 10 years ago. My question is how does this potentially effect our relationship long therm if I was to decide to settle down/marry him? Will this effect our ability to buy a home (i.e. Condo or Co-OP ), gainful employment etc. I apologize in advance if my questions sound ignorant.

Nina

In support of a felon

Hello Nina,

I'm happy to hear that your relationship is working well. The fact that your significant other is a felon may test your commitment a little. I don't foresee his past being a barrier to owning a home etc., but it may impact his ability to readily get the type of job he wants right away. Of course I am not a relationship expert, but if he has not decided on a life without crime, you may have a tough time of it. Even a person with the best of intentions cannot change someone who has not made his mind that he wants something else in life.

Being a felon may make getting a good job a little tougher that those who are not so he may need your total support. Help him stay focused on your mutual goals and all will work out.

Best of luck to you.

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